Role models. The way that parents resolve problems and disagreements sets a strong example for kids. So if you and your spouse work through conflicts in a way that's respectful, productive, and not aggressive, you increase the chances that your children will adopt those tactics when they run into problems with one another. If your kids see you routinely shout, slam doors, and loudly argue when you have problems, they're likely to pick up those bad habits themselves.
It might be wise to reflect back to your childhood, and remember the examples you were set by your parents. What you saw as a child, has a direct effect on your behavior, and the type of example you set for your kids.
Think about it.
